I recently met a friend for a coffee with our youngest daughters and we reminisced about the coffee meetings we had when we had our first babies. A lot has changed since then, a lot of lessons learned, and I know that there are many many more to come. If I could go back to myself as a first-time mum and give 5 points of advice, what would I say?
After some thought.. this would be my Parenting101:
The “Perfect Parent” is a myth. Don’t compare yourself to a fictional figure, it will only end in frustration. The same goes for the “Perfect Child” and the “Perfect Family”
- Your child is as individual as you are. Lots of parenting guides may say that by following their steps you can achieve a specific parenting goal but their way may not be the best fit for your child. There’s nothing you are doing wrong and there is nothing wrong with your child. You just need a different way
- Mum-shaming is ‘a thing’. There are people who feel it is ok to pass judgement on your parenting decisions. It’s not ok.
- Time flies. Enjoy raising your children, even the most challenging phases will soon pass
What top tips would you share?
Amal is a paediatrician and mum/step-mum to four wonderful children. She started MedicMum101 to share tips and experiences on all things motherhood. She enjoys writing about parenting, health, and wellness, as well as other life musings from time to time. When she is not working, writing, or running after the kids, you can often find her working on a new piece of art.